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Hello, my lovelies,
It’s been a while since I’ve done a post on the Realities series.
Background on my Realities Series
Back in 2017, I started the Realities Series which I did every week. However, due to several reasons, I stopped in 2018 but now Realities is back. The only difference is that it won’t be as regular as the last time.
My vision for the Realities Series is to use it as a medium to encourage, motivate and remind us of certain life’s lessons/ issues. In some cases, I will be using personal experiences to explain the topic.
Let’s get right into it!
This week’s Realities quote is very common. In fact, it’s so popular that I didn’t find the individual who made the quote.
The quote: “We don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone- unknown.”
What is appreciation?
If one were to ask me what appreciation means, I’ll simply say it is being grateful. However, a more technical meaning as stated by the Oxford dictionary says appreciation is: “recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something”.
Synonyms for this word include: valuing, respect, prizing, cherishing, treasuring, admiration, regard, esteem, high opinion.
Why you should show appreciation?
There are several reasons why one should show appreciation to someone or something.
One reason is nothing lasts forever. The person or thing that you love so much will not last forever. Yes, it’s sad but it’s the hard truth. You cannot choose or determine when the person will die or when your most prized possession will vanish. For this one reason, you should greatly value whoever or whatever you appreciate. It will not be there for eternity.
Growing up I lived with my grandma, and spending most of the time with her, we were close. I love her to bits but due to my stubborn and rebellious nature (you know if you know me very well) we clashed quite a bit and I never actually showed her how much I loved and cared about her. I stopped living with her when I moved to live with my parents. For almost 7 years, due to university, funds and other stuff, I didn’t get to see my grandma. She kept asking me to come and see her before she died but I never got around to it and I kept saying “you’re not going to die”. I finally got to plan a visit to Nigeria to see her but unfortunately, she passed 3 months before my visit. It was a very devastating time for me, even as I write this I’m welling up😢😢. Her death made me realise that I should have done more to show here that I love her. I wish that I did a lot of things differently: I should have called more often, texted more, video called, thanked her, told her I loved her. But it’s too late now and I have learned my lessons.
How to show appreciation?
The little things: remember in my story above, I said I wish I had done some things differently like calling, texting, etc. Sometimes we take these things for granted but they go a long way. Don’t wait till you can show them in a massive way. Start now with those little things.
Word of mouth: showing your appreciation by word of mouth is the easiest way to show someone your appreciation. So easy that it could be misused or taken for granted. It could also not make much of an impact. So you might want to go the extra mile if you really want the person concerned to know and believe that you appreciate them. That being said, for some people telling them how you feel is enough. It’s all dependent on the individual.
Actions: show them. You’ll always hear that actions speak louder than words. This is true because as I mentioned previously, word of mouth can easily be misused. For instance, someone could say that they appreciate you but their actions are the complete opposite of what they’ve said. This could be either because they’re just saying what you want to hear or it could be because they actually mean what they say but do not know how to go about it in actions. So back up your words with actions.
Gifts: this is part of showing appreciation through actions. However, just like words, this action could be misused. You cannot keep getting someone gifts to show appreciation but then the rest of your actions is questionable or vile. If you think it’s acceptable and that your gifts will make up for it, I’m sorry to disappoint you but it doesn’t work that way. Believe me, it won’t work.
Cherish it: if you’re trying to show appreciation to something, the only way really to do so is to cherish whatever it is. You cannot buy it gifts or tell it that you appreciate it, but you can cherish that thing or moment or whatever else it is. It won’t be like every other thing or every other moment, it will be special. Imagine you have a piece of jewelry with sentimental value, what do you do with it? You take care of it, maybe wear it only on special occasions, you put it separate from your other pieces of jewelry, you make sure not to lose it, etc.
There are so many other ways to show appreciation, but the key is to treat them right!
Moral: Appreciate what you have before it’s too late.
Actions: Start with the little things. Tell or show someone or something that you are appreciative of them.
That’s it for this week. Have a good week ahead my loves. See you in my next post xx Be sure to check out my previous posts.